Lying next to each other, a thousand miles apart.
- You're in the same room — but feel a world away.
- The conversations have gone quiet, or they end in the same argument.
- You miss the version of you two that used to laugh easily.
If you just thought, "that's us" — you're in the right place.
What's possible
Feeling reached for again — and reaching back.
The distance you feel isn't the end of your story — it's a cycle waiting to be understood.
Couples who feel miles apart aren't broken. They're stuck in a pattern that keeps pulling them away from each other — even when both of them desperately want closeness.
In EFT couples therapy, we slow that pattern down together. You begin to hear what's actually underneath the silence, the frustration, the shutdown — and you start reaching for each other in a way that lands.
Imagine softening into a glance across the room again. Imagine being held — and trusting it.
Real experiences from people who found their way back to connection
“Shoshana is amazing! She helped us identify and break our conflict patterns by dissecting it in our sessions. Her method is very deliberate and based on specific theories of connection and attachment.”
A space for the people quietly carrying a lot.
Couples stuck in the same painful cycle
High-functioning adults with anxiety or overwhelm
People healing from trauma
Individuals struggling with food and body image
Individuals navigating the weight of Type 1 Diabetes
You might look like things are "fine" from the outside — but inside, something feels off.
Maybe you and your partner keep having the same argument over and over again… or you've stopped arguing altogether and just feel distant.
Maybe you're constantly managing anxiety, stress, or overwhelm — trying to hold everything together, but feeling exhausted underneath it all.
Or maybe you're living with Type 1 Diabetes, and the emotional weight of it feels invisible to everyone else.
If any of this feels familiar, you're not alone — and you don't have to keep navigating it this way.
Helping people feel deeply understood, emotionally safe, and no longer stuck.
My work is centered around helping people move out of the patterns that are keeping them disconnected — from their partner, from others, or from themselves.
Couples who feel disconnected
You love each other — but you keep getting stuck in painful patterns of conflict, distance, or misunderstanding.
Individuals carrying too much
Anxiety, trauma, overwhelm, or feeling stuck. High-functioning on the outside, but internally it feels like too much.
Living with Type 1 Diabetes
Living with T1D since age 2, I understand the constant mental and emotional load in a way that goes beyond textbook knowledge.
What changes in therapy
Over time, many clients begin to experience shifts that don't just help in the moment — they change how you experience your life and relationships long-term.
- ✓Feel closer and more emotionally connected
- ✓Stop having the same repetitive arguments
- ✓Communicate without escalating
- ✓Feel calmer internally
- ✓Feel less shame around food and body
- ✓Stop feeling alone in diabetes
- ✓Trust yourself again
- ✓Feel more emotionally safe opening up
- ✓Less anxiety and internal overwhelm
- ✓Feel more confident and grounded
- ✓Stop feeling alone in your struggles
- ✓Feel secure in your relationship
I know how painful it can feel when relationships become distant.
I know how painful it can feel when relationships become distant, anxiety takes over, or life feels emotionally overwhelming.
My work is deeply rooted in helping people feel understood, emotionally safe, and no longer alone in what they're carrying.
This isn't just professional for me — it's something I care deeply about.
It's not about lack of love. It's about the cycle.
Most couples don't struggle because they don't care about each other; they struggle because they get caught in a cycle.
One of you reaches out, the other pulls away. One of you feels unheard, the other feels criticized. And over time, the distance grows.
Underneath these patterns is something deeper — a need to feel safe, wanted, and emotionally connected.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps you understand that cycle, slow it down, and begin to reach for each other in a way that actually brings you closer.
This isn't about learning more communication tips. It's about changing the emotional pattern between you.
Cycle → Connection → Bond
Therapy with me isn't about talking in circles or getting surface-level advice. We slow things down and begin to understand what's really happening underneath.
Breaking the cycle
We slow things down and uncover the negative patterns that keep you stuck — so you can see the cycle as the problem, not each other.
Building connection
With more safety in the room, you'll learn how to share your deeper feelings and needs in new ways that invite closeness and understanding.
Strengthening your bond
You'll begin practicing healthier ways of connecting, so your relationship feels stronger and more secure long after therapy ends.
"Life-changing." "Impossibles became possible."
Shoshana is amazing! She helped us identify and break our conflict patterns by dissecting it in our sessions. Her method is very deliberate and based on specific theories of connection and attachment.
Shoshana has been instrumental in helping me grow in areas that I have avoided for years. As a psychotherapist myself, she has adapted and shown up in all of the ways that I have needed over the past few years. She is kind, smart and equipped. Thank you Shoshana! Highly recommend!
Shoshana is the most open and accommodating therapist I've ever had. She made me feel extremely comfortable as sometimes therapy can be overwhelming. She helped me prioritize what I wanted to work on so that I was less overwhelmed with the issues I was experiencing. She worked with me on developing strategies for managing my anxiety, and helped me learn to recognize when to use them. I would recommend her to anyone.
I have been working with Shoshana Ort for just over a year. She is not only extremely knowledgeable, but kind and compassionate. I always feel heard and she has given me excellent feedback, helping me to see and understand myself differently and positively. Seeing myself positively, learning new skills, and continued therapy has given me a better life.
Shoshana met me as a client in a very difficult time in my life and has completely turned my life around. Shoshana listens without judgment and provides the tools that work for YOU. My impossibles started to become possible with Shoshana as my therapist.
My wife and I worked with Shoshana for over a year and it was truly a life changing experience. The first breakthrough was when Shoshana was able to help us understand our 'couples dance.' She has the ability to investigate a situation and get us to discover the deeper emotions. I have noticed that we are now able to 'slow down time' during arguments. We can recognize our cycle as it happens and successfully break it. Shoshana possesses a remarkable balance of a calming presence and the ability to challenge one to dig deeper.
Shoshana is a phenomenal therapist and I strongly recommend her to anyone! My partner and I sought her out for couples therapy because she uses EFT and we could not have lucked out more. She strikes the perfect balance of being direct and challenging, while also compassionate and supporting. We now communicate more openly, understand each other more deeply, and handle conflict in ways that bring us closer together. I've grown more in one year working with her than I had in ten years of prior individual therapy.
Therapy that goes beyond surface-level coping strategies.
I help you understand the deeper emotional patterns that are keeping you stuck — whether that's in your relationship, your anxiety, or your relationship with yourself.
My approach is grounded in evidence-based models like EFT, EMDR, and IFS, while also being deeply relational and emotionally focused.
Having lived with Type 1 Diabetes for over 30 years, I bring a level of understanding to that experience that can't be taught — only lived.
My goal is to help you not just manage — but truly feel more at peace, more connected, and more like yourself again.
Greenwood Village & throughout Colorado and New Jersey.
Inner Calm Counseling provides in-person therapy in Greenwood Village and the Denver Tech Center, as well as virtual therapy throughout Colorado and New Jersey.
Attachment-based individual and couples counseling.
You don't have to keep doing this alone
Whether you're feeling stuck in your relationship, overwhelmed internally, or carrying something that feels heavy — therapy can help things feel different.
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